This past Thursday, March 13 2007, Bethany and I celebrated our ninth year of marriage! It was a beautiful, cold March day when we were married. Bethany had just turned 18, and I was barely 21. Many people I am sure uttered the words, “They’re too young. They’ll never make it.” Ha! I laugh in your faces! Not only are we still married, we’re happy and LOVING it!
The U.S. Census Bureau released a report in 2005 stating that the average first-time marriage lasts 8 years. According to that statistic, we are BETTER THAN AVERAGE! I could have told you that, but it’s nice to back it up with some facts.
It’s been a great nine years, even though the first was quite rough. We have four children ages 6, 4, 2, 1, and number five due in September.
I love ‘em, I love ‘em, I love ‘em.
The study I linked to has some interesting stuff in it. 76% of first time marriages between 1955-1959 lasted 20 years or longer, while marriages from 1975-1979 only had 58% last at least that long. Also, forget the “Seven year itch,” more first-time marriages end in year two (1 in 12 in year two as opposed to 1 in 20 in year seven).
So, to encourage all you you married people, if we can do it, anyone can. And it’s not about you, it’s about both of you. As for words to live by, I can only speak from the husband perspective. The Bible says to love your wife as Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). He laid down His life for us, so give your life for her. He had no complaints, even though He knew it would be tough, and He still gave his life knowing He might never receive anything in return, so quit your complaining and help her out once in awhile. Also, 1 Corinthians 13 is a great place to learn about love as well.
Peace and God bless,
- chris mooney