My marriage is better than average, is yours?

Posted: March 16th, 2008 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, Spirituality | Tags: , , , , , , , | 6 Comments »

This past Thursday, March 13 2007, Bethany and I celebrated our ninth year of marriage! It was a beautiful, cold March day when we were married. Bethany had just turned 18, and I was barely 21. Many people I am sure uttered the words, “They’re too young. They’ll never make it.” Ha! I laugh in your faces! Not only are we still married, we’re happy and LOVING it!

The U.S. Census Bureau released a report in 2005 stating that the average first-time marriage lasts 8 years. According to that statistic, we are BETTER THAN AVERAGE! I could have told you that, but it’s nice to back it up with some facts.9th Anniversary

It’s been a great nine years, even though the first was quite rough. We have four children ages 6, 4, 2, 1, and number five due in September.

I love ‘em, I love ‘em, I love ‘em.

The study I linked to has some interesting stuff in it. 76% of first time marriages between 1955-1959 lasted 20 years or longer, while marriages from 1975-1979 only had 58% last at least that long. Also, forget the “Seven year itch,” more first-time marriages end in year two (1 in 12 in year two as opposed to 1 in 20 in year seven).

So, to encourage all you you married people, if we can do it, anyone can. And it’s not about you, it’s about both of you.  As for words to live by, I can only speak from the husband perspective.  The Bible says to love your wife as Christ loves the church (Eph. 5:25). He laid down His life for us, so give your life for her.  He had no complaints, even though He knew it would be tough, and He still gave his life knowing He might never receive anything in return, so quit your complaining and help her out once in awhile.  Also, 1 Corinthians 13 is a great place to learn about love as well.

Peace and God bless,

- chris mooney


  • chickadee74

    you both make a very cute couple. I’ve been married for 10 years coming up March 27th and I tell ya, it’s a lot of work! Good luck to you both!

  • http://mendingshift.wordpress.com Jeromy

    Congratulations, man! Although I am slightly impressed with the 9 year number (we hit 10 in June), the ages and number of your kids impresses (or scares) me more. You guys are saints in my mind! Blessings, and again, congratulations!

  • Bethany

    Hey Baby,
    I love you more and more with each passing day!! Yes, marriage is a lot of work, but anything good in life is work! It is worth every single second!! I love you sooo much and am so happy that God blessed me w/ finding my true love in you! I coulldn’t ask for a better husband or father to my children! You really are the best!! Happy 9 years!! :o )
    Love ya,
    your wife:o)

  • Chris

    Congrats Beth & Chris!

    We have been married 13+ years and have 3 children, 11, 8,7….the two youngest are called ‘Irish Twins’…*wink* *wink* LOL

    Anyway, one thing we’ve discovered, is to keep working on your marriage even when it seems strong. Don’t wait for the rough patches to buy a marriage improvement book, or go to a marriage improvement seminar.

    The last book we read was “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman (a Christian author). He has some interesting insights.

    In Christ,
    Chris

  • http://tsdi.wordpress.com/ baddogmooney

    Thanks for stopping by and leaving a note everyone! Before I know it we will be at 10 years, then 15 and 20!

    - mooney

  • Tracy Simmons

    I can tell you first hand that it only gets better the longer you go!We just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary and we are more in love with every passing year.