What I Learned From The NFL Replacement Refs

Posted: October 3rd, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, Random | Tags: , , , | No Comments »

Like it or not, the NFL ruled the last second  touchdown by the Seattle Seahawks against the Green Bay Packers to be the correct call. You didn’t see that in the headlines did you? (story link)

For the first three weeks of the NFL season, it seemed that the games were a side note to the officiating. While some despise the mishaps of the replacement referees in the first three weeks of the NFL season others found that they added an entertaining an unpredictable aspect to the games. Either way, they taught me a few things:


1.    Do the best you can, we all make mistakes. The regular refs were on strike and the NFL found what they believed to be the most competent replacements. I’m sure being thrust onto the biggest stage in the world was overwhelming, but they found a way to get the job done.

And sometimes we feel the same. Pressures  mount and stress is added at every point, but just do the best you can. Take what knowledge you have and apply it. Will you always get it right? No. Learn from the mistakes so you don’t repeat them.

2.    Give the other guy the benefit of the doubt. I don’t believe anyone wakes up in the morning, looks in the mirror, and says, “I’m going to be a jerk today and tick off as many people as I can.” Likewise the refs didn’t start each game with the mindset of blowing calls. I need to remember that people on the other side of the aisle from me are trying their best to be great at their work, that the customer has a right to be upset if you messed up, that service reps can have bad days too.

When in doubt, just treat the other guy how you would want to be treated if you messed up: with compassion and understanding.

3.    Don’t make excuses The post-game press conferences were full of players and coaches calling out the missed calls (that went the other teams way). They had a right to be upset, but a bad call is rarely the only reason a team loses a game. There are scores of missed opportunities: a pass that was thrown to hard, a hold on a block that calls back a touchdown, and missed tackles.

Bad things happen that are out of our control. In the end we need to take responsibility for our decisions and let the cards fall where they may. The alternative is repeating failures by blaming others for our missed opportunities.

4.    Even if the world is against you, show up.  I can’t imagine being one of these guys. It seemed every round of games, these they were less popular with the public. Regardless, they showed up. The world rejected them, but they didn’t run, hide, or quit. They clocked in and did what they had to do.

It’s the same for us. Sometimes we aren’t going to win the “Most Popular” award at work or home for the decisions we make, but that doesn’t mean we shrink into a hole. We must stand up and be proud of what we do. Half of the road to success is simply showing up.

What did you learn from the replacement refs?

Of Poop and Perspective…

Posted: March 5th, 2012 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, Random | 2 Comments »

Jaivin, my eight year old son, walks up to me yesterday and asks, “Did you read my note yet, Daddy?”

“What note?”

“The one I left in your pocket, where you put your wallet. It’s blue.”

“Nope. I didn’t even know it was there, let me get it.” I return to the couch with a folded piece of blue construction paper and open it.

“Poop?” I ask, laughing. “What’s that all about?”

“Nooo Daddy, it says dude!”

I give him a quizzical look, flip the paper over, and sure enough, “dood.”  We laughed for a good three minutes about it. It taught me something though, about the importance of perspective. Sometimes we look at a situation and see utter and complete crap. If we turn it over and look at it a new way, we may just see it for what it truly is; an opportunity to make a difference in someone’s life, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem.

And heck, maybe you’ll be able to sit back and laugh at the poop in your life, dood.

Friendship Never Leaves – A Short Story by My Daughter Laila

Posted: November 16th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Random, Writing | 8 Comments »

I enjoy writing, it turns out my nine year old daughter does too. Here is a short story she wrote this weekend.

Friendship Never Leaves

by Laila Mooney

There once were two girls who were best best BEST friends. Their names were Tracie and Amber. They were playing kick the leaves when Tracie’s mother called her inside.

Tracie said, “Yes Mother!” and immediately went inside.

Amber curious about what was going on was about to get up and go inside when Tracie came out crying. Tracie ran over and gave Amber a big hug and choked up the words, “I’m moving!”

Amber thinking of another town said, “Where?”

Tracie calmed down because of Amber’s hug and said, “California!”

They lived in Pennsylvania so this was a big move.

When the words came out of Tracie’s mouth, Amber was so shocked she just couldn’t hold back tears. She asked, “How can I live without my best friend?”

They stood outside sobbing in each other’s arms for what felt like hours, even though it was only a few minutes. Then Amber’s mom came to pick her up. Surprised by the crying she asked what was wrong.

Amber spilled the bad news.

“I just don’t understand why she has to move!” she said. “I mean, I’d be okay if it was another town but California? I mean that’s just crazy!”

Amber’s mom said, “I understand that it’s shocking news Amber but remember, no matter where she is she will always be in your heart, and so are all of your memories”.

Amber looked at her mom and said, “You’re right Mom. She will always be in my heart”.

Later that week at the moving away party, Amber came over to Tracie and said, “My mom reminded me the other day that you will always be in my heart and I will always be in yours.”

Tracie, holding back tears said, “Thank you. You just reminded me.”


Inspired by “Zombies, Wine, and Christian Music”

Posted: November 15th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, People/Sites I Like, Random, Videos, Writing | 2 Comments »

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Generally I read a book on the way to work (I walk), today I walked out the door checking Twitter. My friend Kelly Stone (@KellyMarieStone) reTweeted: “RT @michaelgungor: A bit of a fiery rant about Christian media, wine, and yes, zombies. (http://bit.ly/t3Zfzz). Compelled by curiosity I followed the link.

Wow. Amazing. It turns out its the blog of Michael Gungor, who I have previously never heard of, and his post is a few of his thoughts on “Christian” media.

By “a few of his thoughts,” I mean 2,969 words of awesomeness!

You have to read it (click here).  I know you’re thinking, “3000 words? really?” But you know, it’s worth it.  Some things can’t be packaged into tiny 250-300 word capsules. Maybe that’s part of the wonder I felt when reading it, that Michael didn’t care to shorten his thoughts, or abbreviate his point into separate posts. He just put it out there: Ready or not, here I come.

And that’s also the point of his post, that “Christian media” has become more a marketing machine than culture of artistic impression, and God forbid, creativity.

His focus is music, but I would also agree this point is true with books.  I read quite a bit, maybe more than the average Joe (my bookshelf), but most of the fiction I consume is not Christian, as it generally annoys me in the first few pages.

I am writing a novel and in doing so have read the “bibles” on writing, and the “what not to do” sections could be filled by many “Christian” novels written by the higher selling authors. They have a “feel” to them that’s easy to pick out, much like Christian radio stations, which are easily distinguished even before the “Jesus loves me” lyrics can be heard.

Not that it’s entirely bad, but the eerie feeling is one of inadequacy, of missing the empirical standards set by many secular authors like Stephen King, Philip Roth, Dan Brown, and John Irving.

I know my ideas may never be bought into by the larger marketers (oops, publishers), but that’s why I must create it. That is why I cannot settle for the subpar, call it “Christian” and expect people to like it. The Christian public may buy it, but like me, they are likely tired of the same old crap they get handed.

And so I raise my Guinness and toast to writing the way I want, to making my posts 2,969 words if I must. *chug chug*

For those of you still reading, Gungor’s music is amazing, and I leave you this video.  If you want to buy their album, as I did, click here: Gungor – Ghosts Upon the Earth.


My site now works in IE 8 and 9!

Posted: November 9th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Random | No Comments »

It has been brought to my attention that my blog was not working for Internet Explorer 8 or 9 for some time now,  I’m truly sorry. The great news is that I found and eliminated the problem, so if you have not been reading my posts because of this, you are now without excuse.

Oh, and get a real browser like: Firefox, or buy a Mac, lol

The Incredible Power of a Smile

Posted: November 9th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Random, Videos | 3 Comments »

I found this video about the power a simple smile can have to change your life. Smiling more everyday can even extend your life 7 years! Oh, and even fake ones count a little.

Most amazing to me is that kids smile as many 400 times a day. Adults? Most smile about 30 times a day.  So I encourage you today, no matter your circumstance, find a way to smile today, it will improve your life!

What always brings a smile to your face? For me, it’s when I come home from work and all my kids rush to me screaming “Daddy’s home!”

EDIT: I just found out that Gutman has a book on this subject you can get by clicking here: SMILE!







The Talented Mr. (Miss) You!

Posted: November 2nd, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, People/Sites I Like, Random, Videos, Writing | 4 Comments »

I love to read and I love to write, but no matter how hard I try when I write, I always feel like my ideas and words are mediocre at best, and every one else is a brilliant literary savant.

I frequent Jon Acuff’s blog, made famous by his comical and witty book “Stuff Christians Like” (my review here) and more recently “Quitter” (great book!), and I was blown away by a recent post titled “The talent we have the hardest time recognizing is our own.

He posted a video by a guy named Derek Sivers which sums it up pretty well.

Derek asks at the end of the short video, and I would like your thoughts as well, “Are you holding back something that’s too “obvious” to share?”

Mine is writing.


The talent we have the hardest time recognizing is our own.


How To Feed the Homeless (video)

Posted: August 15th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Random, Videos | No Comments »

Sometimes, you want to help feed the homeless, but you really don’t have the financial means to do so.  Comedian Tom Mabe offers his way of helping to feed the homeless. While effective, I think it may be a misdemeanor.



What’s your favorite read?

Posted: July 26th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: Book Reviews, My Thoughts, Random, Writing | 3 Comments »
Something Wicked This Way Comes by Ray Bradbury

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I enjoy reading so I read quite a bit, often 3-4 books at a time.  I recently finished a couple and found myself at a loss of what to read next, so I decided to get out old faithful.  We all have one; the book that you can read a million times.  It’s like comfort food for the soul.

My “old faithful” is Ray Bradbury’s “Something Wicked This Way Comes.”  It’s the only book other than the Bible I’ve read at least four times.  It’s a story about two boys, Will and Jim, and a mysterious carnival that blows into town.  I just can’t get enough of it.

Bradbury’s writing is so playful, and descriptive, I just can’t get enough.  Sometimes I will read a sentence or paragraph ten times in a row because it’s so brilliantly flawless: perfect.

The pic for this post is the front cover from the copy I have, a 1970 Bantam paperback that is near the end of it’s life.  (Take that ebooks, lol You’ll be irrelevant in 41 years and I’ll still have my paperback!)

So, what’s your “old faithful?”  What book keeps you coming back time and again? What is it that you love so much about it?





If you could ask God one question…

Posted: June 13th, 2011 | Author: | Filed under: My Thoughts, Random | 5 Comments »

I like questions, they’re intriguing; and I like to hear other people’s questions.  Today I was thinking, “What would I ask God if I could ask him one question?”

Mine: “Why can’t angels be redeemed?”

Also, I asked my kids, here are theirs:

Laila-9: “How long will I live?”

Jaivin-7: “Are their aliens?”

Kaiden-6:  “Can I be your best friend?”

Alaina-4: “How do you make people?”

Lillee-2: “Can I have a baby in my tummy?”


What’s your question?